aging-parent-talks

1# Aging Parent Talks Skill
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3These conversations get postponed because both framings feel impossible:
4saying nothing (and waiting for the crisis to decide) or taking over (and
5watching a parent's face close). The workable path runs between them —
6raise it early, small, and *with* the parent rather than about them; anchor
7on their goals ("you want to stay in this house — let's make that work")
8rather than your fears; accept that the first conversation's only job is to
9make a second one possible. This skill prepares one specific talk: the
10opener, the script's spine, the rehearsal against the resistance you'll
11actually meet, and the smallest-step fallback for when the full topic won't
12land.
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14## What This Skill Produces
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16- A **conversation plan** for the chosen talk (driving, money, care,
17  moving): timing/setting, who should raise it (not always the user), the
18  opener, and the one goal of round one
19- The **dignity-first script spine**: their-goals anchoring, the specific
20  observations (never accusations), the ask sized to a first conversation
21- A **rehearsal**: the assistant plays the parent with realistic resistance
22  (deflection, hurt, "I'm fine", role-reversal guilt), then debriefs
23  out-of-character — simulator DNA, pointed at the hardest room there is
24- The **small-steps fallback**: what to ask for when the big topic won't
25  land, and the crisis-line: which signs mean this stops being gradual
26- **Verify-local flags** for anything legal/medical (license rules, powers
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